Pick Up the Phone and Make That Call Posted on January 3, 2019 by admin How many people feel somewhat apprehensive if our phone rings? It may be that it happens so infrequently that we’re shocked and put it off, then afterwards text the caller to ask what they wanted! Failing that, we may suspect that it’s either a nuisance or sales call. All our friends text us these days, surely! Then there’s the anxiety we might feel over the reason for the call; is it an urgent matter, is someone sick? Recent figures published by Ofcam reveal that the amount of cellular voice calls made in 2017 dropped by 1.7percent in the united kingdom, the first time the number of cellular call made has ever fallen. Texting is great but it has its limitations and there is a private, human link from a telephone call that can’t be made when using text. Sometimes we really should pick up the phone and make that call. Have there been times when you’ve wondered about the tone of a text message? A simple’thank you’ can be misconstrued and translated in several ways, from sarcastic to appreciative, with a great deal of nuances in-between. Equally, someone texting that they’re fine may be a cover-up to prevent displaying vulnerability as to how they are truly feeling. A text may be their way of keeping hold of the emotions, yet it functions only to distance them from true support. Yes, texts are effective as they may be transmitted at any time, allowing us to tick still another item off the to do list, but they could also be evasive. Many a time I’ve felt irritated when someone has repeatedly ignored replying to part of a question and finally I’ve ended up phoning them so as to get some straight answers. Texts can put a distance between us and our friends. We know to protect our more personal side and issue edited highlights, so managing the information we release about ourselves. Social media is in part responsible for this as so many of the pictures we frequently see are of gorgeous people posing in gorgeous outfits, looking perfect at stunning venues. No one sees the post-selfie pictures where everybody flops back down again, letting normality resume once they’d updated their newsfeed. Phoning someone for a chat provides a real chance to connect, to talk about what is happening, exchange ideas and get to know each other better. Previously unplanned invitations may happen as a result, like indicating meeting for a coffee, or linking with different arrangements, things that might not have been considered in a straight text exchange. Some people today think that telephone calls are only for older people, but young people, perhaps away from home for the first time, finding their feet at college or in a new occupation, can be incredibly lonely for the first few months or weeks whilst they’re settling into a new location. Stress and mental health issues can affect any of us and a phone call can offer an important link with friends, familiarity and unconditional support. Talking to somebody who knows you, possibly about trivia, can be a terrific source of comfort. Feeling connected to everything you know and love, even for a few short minutes can make such a difference to feeling that you are okay and that things will turn out fine. Sharing, connecting and laughing, even at ourselves, all bring a reassuring tone to the day. Set aside time to reconnect with your real human relationships. Spend some time in your friendships. Make a brew, pull a cozy chair and speak, actually chat with that friend or relative you have not spoken to in so long.